Staying Motivated: Keeping up with Expectations of Yourself
We have all had those days… the ones where you look at the clock at 3p and wonder how in the world it got so late and you have absolutely NOTHING accomplished. I’m having those days more than usual since I’m
stuck staying at my dad’s caring for him after he broke his hip. But you can adjust, stay motivated, and keep up with your own expectations you have for yourself and your life.
Most of my guilt (yes, guilt) of not accomplishing much isn’t even true. I’m doing as much as I can considering this isn’t MY house and any projects that I do have in the works I have no means to accomplish. I have a lot of sewing projects I wanted to work on, but alas, my sewing machine and desk and supplies are just entirely too much work to transport the 30 miles from my house.
So I’ve been doing what I can. I’ve cleaned the entire house, I emptied out and sorted a lot of stuff he’s had sitting around since before my sister and I moved out 22 years ago. I called and got him to finally update the leaky shower after bugging him for over 10 years… probably more, because I think we bugged him when we actually bought the house when I was 13!!
Here are the 3 key things I’ve realized being in an uncomfortable and unaccomplished situation.
Appreciate what you HAVE done.
When you sit and look at the clock, take a step back and focus on what you actually have done today. I did this just a little while ago. I realized that I already have been my dad’s waitress, maid, nurse, etc. I’ve given him breakfast, his pills, all his liquids and I have washed, dried and put away all of the dishes. When you stop and think about it, I actually have accomplished a lot.
Realize that you are doing things, just not what you WANT to be doing.
I have to remind myself a few times a day on this one. I am doing all of this for him. Doing things for him is what is required of me now. No matter how many things I would rather be doing. Just because I’m not doing things that make sense for me does not mean that I am not accomplishing a lot. Doing what matters is more important than doing what you want.
Make a to-do list of what you CAN do, not what you WANT to do.
A lot of the feeling of being “lazy” or “unaccomplished” is because you set yourself up to fail. You expect yourself to get done too much in a day. I don’t care how energetic you are, you are only one person. You can only do so much in the period of a day. No matter what, there is only so much that you can get done. Life will always throw you a few curveballs on what you have to do and when. I didn’t expect that the process of cleaning for Dad would entail a lot of running to town to get supplies and take in trash. When there is time, I do what I can. Accepting that I did the best I can is all I can do.
Life is never going to go according to your plan. You can dictate out your day down to the exact minute. There is almost always going to be a wrench thrown into the works when you least expect it. Learning to tolerate the disappointment of not getting everything done is key to not getting frustrated. Each and every little thing that you do is leading to a greater purpose.
Do you have some tricks on how to overcome not getting everything done that you planned to? I’d love to hear how you deal with those days!!