Meet Country Mouse and City Spouse AKA Amy and Doug
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Amy- Country Mouse
Having spent the largest part of my childhood in a rural community, growing up lower-middle class, I learned a lot about the fine art of “making due”.
From living on a strict budget to growing our own food to supplement what we could afford to buy, living simply was not an option. We really just didn’t know any other way of life.
Raised By a Single Father
We lost my Mom when she was just 36 years old. Younger than I am now. But she had done so much in such a few years with my sister and me. She essentially formed me into the homemaker wannabe that I am today. We were a family of 4 living on minimum (and sometimes less) wage. Mom never allowed us to go hungry or go without anything. We didn’t have the fanciest home in the world, but we had what we needed.
Dad stepped up to the plate and did the best he could. We struggled more after she was gone because he had been so dependent upon her. I think a part of Mom knew he would fall apart once she was gone so she groomed me to be capable of a lot of things a typical nine-year-old has yet to learn. From cooking to washing clothes to keeping a clean running home, I learned so much from her. I retained an abundance of information from how homemakers in the early 1970’s and 1980’s functioned.
Born to be a Housewife
I was born and bred to be a “typical” 1960’s housewife because that is what my Mom knew and loved. Simplicity and being the strength, if not the head, of a household that was focused on the 3 F’s (see below). I have to change the idea of “housewife” to fit into today’s economy and social structure, though. So I have to work full-time outside of the home and then find a way to balance that with the way that I want to keep my home. Essentially I want to be June Cleaver but am forced to live in a Karshasian era in time.
A family should be the most important thing first. The running of a loving, caring, wonderful family was the first and foremost part of my upbringing. I shutter at the portrait of today’s “Modern Family”. No one makes time for one another. No one looks up from their social media accounts long enough to have a meaningful conversation. I know couples who only talk to one another via texting and social media outlets. It’s sad how in a time of such connection across the world, we are so disconnected from those whom we are meant to be the closest to.
I want the family to come first again. To have nights of complete “unplugged” bliss.
Central to all things, food is one of the very few common areas that we all have to have in order to survive. A lot of the people I work with are so concerned about money for new homes and cars or the latest technology that they forget that first and foremost, the central part of survival is food. What better way to celebrate family than by sharing such a common need across a family table.
I like to keep food simple and easy. It’s the connection across the meal that means the most, not how much you spent or how long you took to prepare the food. I don’t want to ever be so tired from laboring over a hot stove that I’m too tired to be able to hold a conversation with my husband across the dinner table. Therefore, most of what I cook is wholesome, unprocessed but quick meals. Nutritionally dense foods simulate not only the palette but your health as well.
A family that laughs together stays together.
No matter what your family’s dynamic is, having fun and staying light-hearted is soothing to everyone’s soul. I love to laugh and make sure that even if it’s a joke over something dumb I did, we laugh together. My sense of humor is truly healthy, as is City Spouses. If we didn’t “get” each other, we wouldn’t be together.
A lot of people on the outside looking in don’t understand our dynamic. I’ve even had a few people ask me if we hate one another. No way! We just know one another and how we get along is by sarcasm, “zingers”, and just saying whatever we are thinking.